I have learned many things in college. Not from the classes or from the faculties but from the people around me and the situations i have come across. These are some things that college has taught me in my life so far.
Words spoken in anger
I was in my 8th standard when my father scolded me for something I did wrong. In the heat of the moment, I said something really harsh back to him. I don’t remember exactly what it was, but I remember the look on his face. Years later, during my first year in college, my roommate locked me out of the room while I was taking a bath. I missed my classes that day. When I confronted him about it later, he used the exact same kind of harsh words I had once used against my father. That moment hit me hard. It taught me that the split second words you speak might make you happy, but it will be in their memory forever. From that day, I promised myself I would never talk back to my parents disrespectfully, no matter what the situation is.
Appreciate what you have
Growing up, I never once told my mother that her cooking was good. Not because it wasn’t — it was amazing. I just never said it. Vekkam maybe, or just taking it for granted. Then I came to the hostel and tasted what they called food. That’s when I realized what I had been missing. I started calling my mom and telling her how much I miss her cooking and how good it always was. She was surprised at first, but now she looks forward to those calls. The bond between us became even stronger. The lesson is simple — always appreciate the people and things that deserve it. Don’t wait until they’re gone to realize their worth.
Know your audience
I have this habit of making witty comments and kalaichifying people. Some people take it sportingly. Some people counter back even better. But some people don’t say anything at the time, and they go home and think about it. They hold it against you. They start distancing themselves from you. And before you know it, you’ve lost a friend without even realizing why. College taught me that not everyone has the same temperament. Before you crack a joke at someone’s expense, make sure you know how they’ll take it. Because losing a friend over a joke is never worth it.
TBC..